Men and women have a tendency to feel if they stick by their ex’s side after the break up, it can only work in their favor. The truth is this can actually hurt your chances of getting back together with your ex. What does this mean?
For many people, a breakup doesn’t always end a relationship. It just means there is no more commitment to the other person. It’s a freedom that allows them to date other people. Some people are content with having sex with their exes just to have the feeling of being wanted. However, this can lead to mistakes not just for women but for men as well.
While you may think being there for your ex gives you a chance to show them that you love them and you care what happens to them, it doesn’t mean they will understand this. How can they miss you and know this if they are always with you.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” Yes, it is a bit crude but in this case, it does pertain to the issue at hand. If he or she gets the benefits of a relationship but with no strings attached, why would he or she want to be in a committed relationship with you again? There are many ex couples who sleep together while they sleep with other people too.
If you have some dignity and some pride, do not let this happen to you. Make it clear to your ex that it’s either everything or nothing. They can’t have their cake and eat it too. You want them to live a life with you or without you and without you mean getting a nice, clean break from there. This forces them to live their life without you in it.
Once you cut him or her off, they’ll come to realize how important you were in their life and that life doesn’t seem worth living without you in it. They could still be dating other people but suddenly understand that the feelings he thought were gone are still there for you. If you want a chance to getting back together with your ex and make them realize these feelings, take a stand and cut them off.